The Quarter-Life Crisis

I am in a reading slump. I don’t get them too often at the moment so I think I just need to switch out the book I’m reading. It’s not that I’m not enjoying it, I am, but I don’t think it’s what I want to be reading right now.

But that’s not what this blog entry is about.

When I hit twenty-five, I didn’t really have a quarter-life crisis, I was happy floating along and nothing really changed with my age. Fast forward a year.

I recently turned twenty-six (you may remember a vaguely uplifting post about it), when that happened I had a grand plan and life was good and I was feeling determined and optimistic about the future. Don’t get me wrong, I still have a plan and am feeling determined but I am also feeling incredibly anxious.

Everywhere I look, my friends from all periods of my life (from primary school through to my master’s degree) seem to have their lives together, they have great jobs, great houses/flats, some of them are buying houses. They’re going to exciting places and having exciting adventures. (Now, that last bit is something I like to observe from afar, I am a homebody and I’m happy to just chill locally – that’s not to say I never want to go on holiday but I’m more focussed on saving at the moment and that’s okay.) I see my friends getting new jobs and moving up in the world, getting higher salaries and more respected in their fields, and then the panic sets in.

Maybe, it’s just because this month is an expensive month for me, filled with various car-related payments (insurance, service, road tax – yay!). I’m not able to put anything in my savings for a while and that freaks me out. But I find myself panicking that my life is going nowhere, and thinking that I should be at the same stage as the other people I know. Now, rationally, I know that all of my friends have probably had this exact feeling despite how put together they look on the outside. I know for a fact that I have been one of the people inspiring the panic for at least one of my friends (she told me so), so I must not be doing as badly as I think but the problem is that once I think it and feel it, it’s a hard feeling to shake.

My self-confidence ebbs and flows. I can take compliments now, I am practised in the art of agreeing when people say nice things about me and not only agreeing but believing it too. But that confidence doesn’t extend to my worth as a person, I find it very difficult to imagine myself as someone who adds to the environment I am in, I know I am good at things but I never think I am good enough at those things (to be worth hiring or paying or sometimes just being around). I know that this is probably being exaggerated by my current lack of money and the worries that come from that.

I will probably be okay in a few weeks but until then, I will be huddled in the corner, like Golem, whispering my precious over all of the five pence pieces I can find.


This has been a blog entry, I think. I honestly don’t know what this was but I needed to write about it, so here you go. My humble Monday-evening-but-posting-Tuesday offering.

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5 thoughts on “The Quarter-Life Crisis

  1. Well, you are not alone. I sit in the corner feeling”less than” quite often, even though people have told me that my 12 years of sobriety inspire them. Eventually, I make my way back out of my corner; i.hope you find your way out of yours soon!

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  2. I can really understand where you’re coming from. I’m 25 and am currently job searching, have had tons of interviews, but here I sit, still unemployed, often feeling like I’m not good enough for anything, either. So I TOTALLY get what it feels like to look around and feel like everyone else is off living amazing lives and I’m just…not. But for me, at least, I do think a lot of it is societal expectations. I’m also a homebody and really don’t mind taking my time achieving “adult” milestones- but it’s when I see everyone so far ahead of me that I start to panic! It can really take a hit at self confidence. But like you said, everyone has their worries about something, and I think as long as we keep trying we’ll get to where we want to be! All the love <3

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  3. You are so not alone! It’s totally normal to go through periods where you wish you were somewhere else and doing something else but struggle to find a way to get there. Money sucks. Seriously. And when you’re worrying about money it takes over all your thoughts – I speak from experience! I’m sure that things will find a way to work itself out. Then you can look back at this post and ask “what was I worried about”. Keep your chin up buttercup! Best wishes things work themselves out quickly!

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  4. I often feel the same way. I’m a couple of years older than you and it’s really weird seeing people I grew up with getting married and having kids and buying houses. Meanwhile I’m still trying to come to grips with being a “grown-up”. But the good thing about those feelings is that they’re temporary. You’ll come through this period and feel secure, capable, and confident once again. Maybe even more so, because you’ve made it through a tough time. That’s an accomplishment!

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